Dowry and a helpless father!

 

From giving birth to handing over his little girl to someone who he thinks, will take care as same he used to do. Father is one of the most important and a backbone of a family, he is the one who takes all the pain and burden just for one smile of his children. 

Being a girl is not easy because as you grow older and older you realise the society's norms and patriarchal thinking. You realise that if you have to be independent you have to earn your livelihood, but their also society holds you back. 

You know, when a girl is born to a father, he is one of the most happiest people in the world but the second thought which comes to his mind is one day my little girl will get married. She will leave me that becomes the hardest goodbye.

But marriage is not easy as it looks, it is all about dowry and compromise. Just ask yourself, don’t you have the house, don’t you have money or don’t you have a car and even don’t you have furniture? Oh, maybe you don’t have all such stuff, that’s why you need this all but hold on what about your government job and rich background if you are so rich, you have a good govt job then what is the need of all this? 

A boy’s profession decides the amount of dowry which is need to be given, the more reputed the profession is the more will be dowry given by the daughter’s father. Basically, it is moreover a compromise rather than a wedding. A father which literally earns day and night for his family has to think more about his daughters’ marriage.

Sometimes the demand from the grooms' side are so high that the father needs to take a loan from the bank and then purchase stuff demanded by them. This is the pain which father goes through and what is left out- a silence between father and daughter: because both understand that what is happening but no one can speak, why? because of social norms and rituals. 

It is the tradition which is been followed by many states such as Bihar, Haryana, Rajasthan and Uttar Pradesh and many more. This really needs to stop, father be it a groom’s one or a bride’s one both have to be respected by parity. Whatever the father wants to give to his daughter it should be held up to his wish and capability. Strict actions and laws are needed to be implemented as still daughters are killed by her in-laws for not giving satisfactory dowry.

These are some really serious and pivotal issues which are required to be overviewed properly. Society needs to be more vocal about such issues other than political and religious fights. A famous line- “Achha to Len Den ki baat karle? Ji bataiye kitne ka hain apka Beta?”. If such problems will remain avoided then there are many helpless fathers in this country, stand up and speak up!

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